Hello, my name is Suzanne Peden, and I’m a clinical social worker. I’m also the owner of A Angel Adoptions. If you live anywhere in the state of Alabama, I would love to work with you. I will come to you so you don’t have to worry about transportation.
In this particular video, I’d like to focus on a very common emotional emotion among women who choose adoption for their baby, and that is the emotion of guilt. One of the things that I hear women talk about is feeling bad. They express sentiments like “I feel like a bad person,” or “Are people going to think I’m a bad person for not raising this child?” Just struggling with that because guilt is a huge emotion. I’d like to talk about that.
The first thing I’d like to say is feeling guilt is absolutely 100% normal. It’s normal to feel guilt for all kinds of reasons. Guilt because you’re not able to parent another child at this time in your life, guilt that financially you’re not in a better place, guilt that you don’t have family who can emotionally and financially help you. Maybe you have family, but the reality is you don’t like your family or their lifestyle, or you wouldn’t want your child to be raised in that environment.
Maybe you were raised in an environment that wasn’t the best and have a lot of issues surrounding a lot of the trauma you experienced growing up. It would be understandable if you didn’t want your child perhaps to be in that family environment. Feeling guilt is absolutely normal. However, is adoption a responsible plan? Absolutely! No matter what you’ve been through in your life, adoption is a responsible plan! To be able to say, to look yourself in the mirror and say, “I wish that I could provide a wonderful life for this baby. But if you can’t, you have to look at the reality of what is your life like.”
Choosing an adoptive family that is able to provide for your child in all the ways that you feel you can’t, is a loving plan for your baby. A child can’t be loved by too many people, by the adoptive family, by you. The reality is there are many times in our life where we can’t always please our family members or our close friends. The reality is you’re the mama! You make the decision, and you’re in the driver’s seat. Always know in your heart that even though there is guilt and that’s normal, at the same time you are making the right plan for your child. That decision is a responsible and loving plan for your baby.
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